empowering you to find and use your voice
Boundaries therapy in Sandy Springs
You’re always looking out for others, but who’s looking out for you?
You feel like there's no room for your opinions, wants, or needs in a relationship. You’re constantly having to go along with what someone else wants. Over time, it seems like there is less and less room for you.
You feel stuck constantly putting up with patterns in relationships you don't like, and you know that the longer it continues the more you’ll feel taken for granted, invisible, and resentful. It feels scary to set a boundary or stand up for yourself because you don't want to rock the boat or enter into conflict. Maybe you believe that setting boundaries or advocating for yourself makes you selfish, and you may have even been told this before.
You have developed such a low opinion of yourself that you feel it’s not ok to have wants and needs of your own. Things are exhausting and unsustainable as they are.
You may find yourself avoiding certain people or conversations and feel like you’re walking on eggshells. This can make you feel constantly anxious and on edge. You don’t want to keep feeling this way, but you’re scared to address the problem. Maybe you don’t know how to do things differently, but you’re done feeling small, run over, and disrespected.
Even when it feels scary, you get to decide how people treat you.
what therapy for boundaries & people pleasing looks like
While some of this work may push you outside your comfort zone, we’ll go at your pace and only take small, manageable steps towards building the life and relationships you want. As you feel more empowered, you’ll learn to manage that on edge feeling around addressing conflict.
A big part of this work is helping you see that you deserve to take up space in the relationship and to be treated with kindness and respect. You’ll learn that having needs and advocating for them does not make you uncaring or selfish. We’ll help you find your voice by doing role plays, creating personalized boundary scripts to help you navigate difficult conversations with conviction.
Therapy for boundaries & people pleasing can help you…
Recognize unhealthy relationship patterns
Learn your limits
Set and maintain effective boundaries
Overcome guilt with saying no
Know your worth
Manage the stress around conflict so it doesn’t consume you
Feel empowered
Use your voice with confidence
Frequently asked questions about Boundaries & people pleasing
FAQs
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In my experience, people who tend to be people pleasers aren’t likely to swing to the opposite direction. Setting boundaries is actually the healthy middle ground between people pleasing and bulldozing others. Together, we’ll help you find a way to do this that feels true to you and preserves relationships where possible.
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Setting boundaries means you’re communicating how you will behave. You aren’t telling others what they can and can’t do. You are making it clear that certain behaviors will be met with certain responses from you. This way, even if they don’t change, how you show up in the relationship does. You can free yourself from the parts of the relationship that are harmful to you, creating some much needed relief for you.
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Your safety and wellbeing are of the utmost importance, and this will always be our first priority. Sometimes we uncover relational trauma during therapy. This changes how we approach boundaries because it’s important to recognize what may be a trauma response. We can then process the trauma while also working to set boundaries to keep you emotionally and physically safe if you feel ready to do that work.
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It’s ok if you don’t know what you want! Often after you create some space for yourself and recognize your worth, what you want starts to become clear. We’ll help you get to a place where you know what you want and feel empowered to make your own choices.